El fechar en sí mismo es una cuestión muy personal y sofisticada. Cualquier consejo puede apenas ser apropiado aquí. Según Lynne, una vida americana en Alemania, "... ¡si hay alguna conexión genuina entre dos personas, sobrevivirá cualesquiera diferencias pueden presentarse en los primeros tiempos de fechar, y si esas diferencias se parecen también abrumadoras y/o la relación no sobrevive por otras razones, el intentar hacer también muchas adaptaciones en los primeros tiempos no va a ayudar! El la mayoría que cualquier "consejo" puede hacer normalmente debe quizás ahorrar una sensación contusionada ocasional que pudo resultar de un malentendido de menor importancia. Y donde se refieren las culturas alemanas y americanas, el potencial para los malentendidos cultural-basados es relativamente insignificante, así que si abrir-no importan a dos personas bastantes a intentar trabajar con tales diferencias insignificantes, la relación no está parada la ocasión de un copo de nieve en el infierno de sobrevivir de todos modos."
No obstante para la mayoría de la gente que amor sea alemán, un extranjero, allí es un montón de matices culturales y dificultades de menor importancia dando lugar a veces a una enajenación. ¿Por qué no intente evitarlo? Escuchemos otra vez Lynne, el experto en relaciones humanas en general y en relaciones con un hombre alemán en detalle. Being an American, she has unique experience of successful dating and communicating with a German. Here are her practical recommendations and advice for American women dating German men (can be vice-versa: for American men dating German women):
For the most part, you don't need to worry particularly about any major differences, mostly because gender roles here aren't significantly different from what they are in the States. For the most part, you can treat him pretty much like you would almost any American man. For example, if you're the old-fashioned type, he's quite unlikely to complain if you expect him to pay for most of the dates; he'll probably half-expect it. But if you happen to be a supporter of women's rights (and the responsibilities that go along with that), feel free to pay for the dates sometimes or half the time. It might surprise him a bit, but he will most likely appreciate it, especially if he's on the pitifully low budget that most students are on. He'll probably try to pay the bill anyway, as Germans often fight each other for the "privilege" of paying the bills, but you can then secretly pay the next bill when HE's not looking. Or, if he's the real old-fashioned type, like some American men are, he might have the perverse response of thinking that his manhood's been insulted. But if he's as young as in his 20s, that's highly unlikely. So feel free to follow your normal instincts in this regard. If you feel unsure what his attitude might be about such things, feel free to ask him! Direct questions rarely offend Germans (assuming the question isn't too personal), and they're typically more than willing to give straight-forward answers.
Germans and Americans have a few different standards regarding what constitutes "politeness". Americans tend to define politeness in terms of "friendliness": smiling, telling "white lies" to avoid hurting people's feelings, pretending to like people even if we don't, saying "Hi, how are you?" whether we really care how they are or not, etc. Germans, however, tend to consider "respect" to be the proper way to show "politeness", and "respect" assumes that the other person wants an honest answer, not some pretty little "white lie". So, if you're really wanting your ego stroked, DON'T ask him, "So, how d'you like my new dress?" You might not like the answer that he gives. Likewise, DON'T EVER say anything to him "just to be nice" if you don't really mean it; he is too likely to take you quite literally at your word and then be terribly hurt later when he finds out that you didn't really mean it.
Don't try to make too much "chit chat" or "small talk" with him. Most Germans know little or nothing of the art of talking about banal, superficial topics as a way of "breaking the ice" with new acquaintances; that custom belongs to American-style "friendliness" and is not part of German "respect". Germans also often react negatively to the shallow, superficial quality of casual friendships/acquaintanceships in the U.S., and so he might react negatively towards you if you engage in much "light" conversation. If you're looking for good topics for conversation, try: politics, current events, philosophy, or any subject he's studying in school.
Don't be afraid to voice opinions that might be different from his; if your opinion is at least logical, well-reasoned, and well-informed, he will more likely respect you for having your own mind, rather than be offended by you for having a different opinion.
And if you DON'T know much about international politics, news, current events, foreign cultures, etc., then LEARN! FAST! Americans have an international reputation for being extremely ignorant about the rest of the world -- because most Americans ARE ignorant! Germans, however, usually are NOT!!!